How I Work
I think one of the greatest gifts therapists can bestow upon those who seek their help is the gift of being a compassionate witness. Deep down most of us long to be truly seen, heard, known and loved. However, for many of us there have been years of accruing just the opposite, that is, feeling invisible, silenced/voiceless, isolated and rejected or abandoned. When trauma is in our backgrounds, the pain of this is multiplied. As one who endeavors to be a compassionate witness, my objective is to assist you in achieving a more fulfilled life, experiencing wholeness within and restoration in your relationships.
I will work to support you in developing and strengthening your core self by integrating all of who you are and your life experiences. This involves learning to be congruent, that is, matching your internal world with your external behaviors and words. In our work together you will be given the opportunity for growth in living responsibly, authentically, lovingly and inter-dependently.
Course of Therapy
Typically therapy involves an assessment phase in which each counselee or family is evaluated, a treatment phase—usually lasting between twelve to twenty sessions but may be shorter or longer depending upon the problems addressed—and a termination phase which involves summary of progress and an ongoing plan for health and balance. It is not unusual for some life issues to need “re-working,” and many clients return to therapy at different times in life for support and maintenance.
I believe therapy is a responsible part of maintaining health and balance in life.
Counselor Client Relationship
Although the counselor-client relationship is a professional relationship, it is a relationship wherein two human beings are interacting around very personal and intense life experiences and emotions. In this process, it is always my desire to authentically engage my clients within a safe professional framework—not infrequently graced by a heartwarming dose of humor. My aim is to provide a boundaried therapeutic relationship in which you and I work toward reaching your goals at your pace and in ways that feel safe for you.
Some of the therapy models I use are highlighted below.
Attachment Theory includes ten tenets or understandings of attachment. People are “wired” to need attachment (relationship) which ideally offers a secure base and a safe haven from which to explore the world.